Friday, June 10, 2011
How Can One Child Change Everyone's Relationship?
he had never become angry nor bitter, and he would not stop trying. He is our long-haired child and she said he would just drop his head so his hair would fall over his eyes so the kids could not see the tears trickling down his face. Now, a year later, another series of problems. We didn't have a clue. None-the-less, is it a new and unusual problem? To hear it from an 11 year old just may put it in a purer light. He had no anger, no malice, he was not trying to turn anyone against his tormentors, he was just making an observation. Is there any of us who haven't been in the same exact place? Money, power, manipulation, pride! It comes so early, it comes with vengeance and it comes, at times, with great pleasure, pleasure at being able to feel superior, above the "others", powerful, and it changes everyone and everything around it. There is not always clarity as to where this kind of personality comes from, it may, at times, come from the insecurities of the child, it may come from the mother and father, through either their own sense of superiority or, as is often the case, because there is little time for sons and daughters-therefore leaving all the siblings searching for an identity in any extreme behavior, sometimes it is just, as the old timers say, "in-em", it is just their DNA, their genetic code. However, it is far reaching and it consumes and alters everything it touches. How do you address it? What do you say about it? It didn't arrive in the 21st Century, it didn't blossom in American affluence, it has been with us since the days of our ancestral father, and it has never been any prettier. Psychologists, Psychiatrist, Professors, Philosophers, farmers, school teachers, the home-less, it is not prejudice and it is relentless. How does it come to one individual feeling they are above any other? Is it true? Are some of us better than others? The preamble to the Constitution says that we hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men (mankind) are created "equal". Well, there it is, "created". If it is true, if by some
chance our modern scientific advocates are wrong, I am not talking about the space and time of creation, I am simply talking about "creation" then what would that statement mean? It would mean there is no such thing as one individual being superior to another, the essence of humanity would be being human. I am not saying that none of us have unique and beautiful talents and gifts, but what I am saying is that no matter what we have and don't have we are equal by being from the same source and having been given life by a Designer. We instinctively know there should be no such points of view, but we will forever find ourselves fighting these ideas. What I wonder, what Kenny wonders, is how do we move from here? Do we need to fight? Do we need to "scream"? Do we need to start a revolution to subdue such ideas and people? The only source we trust is the revelation God has given us about Who He is. If He created us we can be sure He understands us best, He knows our motivations, He is aware of our vices and tendencies. What did He say about these things? I am not altogether sure, but one thing I am aware of is that He said, Vengeance is a hollow master, rage begets rage, and that to usurp someones will (trying to force someone to do what's right without them choosing it) is a method He Himself has never used. What then? It certainly doesn't seem He wishes us to deny it exists, nor does it seem He wishes us to be unwilling to confront it, or at least acknowledge it, but He seemed to say control it while children are young, circumvent the bullies while you can, but in the end we will all have to face them. A dear young man we know, a hard working and good hearted kid, lost a great job he had worked hard at for almost three years not because his work ethic changed, not because he lost his mind, but because his direct supervisor had some odd form of hostility toward him. He was called into the office about three weeks ago and fired on the spot, without any for-warning! It crushed him. What do you do? There seems to be two imperatives and they must work in unison or they fall flat, first, as we submit to God He releases peace to us, He understands rejection and hostility (most of humanity have that form of relation with Him now) but He, also, gave to us even when it cost Him so much pain and even though we were enemies toward Him; secondly, we have to forgive! Do not deny the problem exists, do all you can to confront it, address it, speak directly to it, but after all is done, usually, these bullies still hold their high ground, at that time there is an absolute necessity to forgive. It seems that these moments are the moments we stand near to Him. Jesus made some astounding comments and maybe none are more outlandish than this one, "Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you"
but did He really mean it? Could He mean it? Was it just some odd metaphor or figure of speech? He did not. First, surrender to God, then, and only then, find a place to forgive. I would say this is not modern wisdom!!! What I can say is that after we shed our private tears, after we fight to keep from having a
tissy-fit, we will sit with Jesse Cole and we will tell him we love him, that he should never feel beneath any individual nor above any, but after all that, he will have to come to a time where he trusts God before all else and he will have to forgive. It seems he already has a strong element of forgiveness in him!!! O how I wish I could fight all his Battles!!!!
Posted by Angela Marie at 7:59 AM